Sunday, July 17, 2011

Mommy Guilty?

The other day I went shopping and picked up a few (which turned out to be quite a lot actually) clothes for self and Pattu. I did some quick mental math (which involves me spreading out my fingers and toes and at times asking my company to do the same)... anyway, the point is, I realised that it would make an obscene bill. At this point, I commanded the objective, fair judge (in me) to take over and be merciless in throwing out irrational items from the shopping cart. And the objective, fair judge (in me) threw out 2 of the 3 items that I had picked up for Pattu while all my 3 items made it to the billing counter.

My friend gave me a shocked look to suggest, 'a nice, selfless mom, aren't you?'. I actually felt a bit shame shame and all that but I put up a brave face and didn't show it.

There are a few more instances as well: If Pattu and I are both hungry, I gobble down a few mouthfuls (I can gobble down a full meal in a few mouthfuls, especially when I am hungry) before I even think of getting Pattu's food ready (but then I am usually very quick to download my few mouthfuls). A hungry me is not a very pleasant sight. But of course if there's only one plate of food between us, I'll give it to Pattu (expecting Pattu to feel blessed).

That made me wonder, I can't think of one instance where my mom has put herself before her children. And that brings me to the question, am I the only shame shame mom around or have we (as moms) changed? 


Inviting all you moms out there to pour your guilt here. However, considering the popularity of my blog (the lack of it), I think it is a better idea to tag a few of you than leave it so open ended. So, the tag goes to Artutbt and Vidya (because I think you all are very unlikely candidates to have done something like this). You have to:

1. Write about 2 instances where you have put yourself before your child/ children... been a wee bit selfish.
2. How did you feel? Did you feel a pang of guilt or were you comfortable?
3. Tag 2 more moms (I want to know I have company, you see **EVIL GRIN**)

9 comments:

utbtkids said...

Cool tag, will take it up soon. Till then.....

"Whatever I do, I do it genuinely for the greater good. So I don't have to feel guilty." Come on repeat after me.

Uma said...

"Whatever I do, I do it genuinely for the greater good. So I don't have to feel guilty."

Feeling really good :D

Swati said...

I do eat before Aryan when I am hungry ..ofcourse for his good ..else he will have to tolerate a hungry irritated mom ;-)
I even eat small bites from his plate when I am very hungry and have not had before him :P

artnavy said...

thanks and did it!

Little Italy- they suggested she try rolling and making her pizza and she was game as usual....

Uma said...

ah..i do some things considered un-motherly..

Uma said...

Swati - Yes! That's my logic as well! **HI-Fi**

Art - hopping over to check...

little italy - cool thing to do! She looks excited in the pic!

Uma - Spill them here...or on your blog... go on...

Vidya said...

Done lady! Thank you:)

Uma said...

Vidya - hopping over to read :)

UmaS said...

ha ha ha....that gobbling up before serving the kids - I've done it many a times....that helps me being less cranky, so that I can serve my kids with a smile - some justification for over-feeding guilt...he he he...

Not to worry...u certainly have company in me... :)